For Moms
Working Moms: Working Like You Have No Kids, Parenting Like You Have No Job
Guilt at work. Guilt at home. Neither role leaves much time for you.
Who This Is For
When both parts of your life expect everything
I hear this pressure from moms: being an employee who works like she has no children and a mom who parents as if she has no job outside the home. Those expectations do not leave much room for a person who needs sleep, food and time to think.
As a mother of four, I know how family needs can collide with the workday. I want to hear what your job actually asks of you and what happens when you come home, not offer a perfect routine.
What We Work On
Where the two roles collide
- 01
Guilt in both directions
At work, you wonder about pickup. At home, you remember an unfinished task. We examine what the guilt asks you to prove.
- 02
Availability
Messages can keep arriving after your workday ends. We discuss the boundaries you can set and the limits you may not control.
- 03
The evening handoff
Dinner, homework and bedtime may begin before you have had a pause. I ask who carries that transition and what help is possible.
How I Work
Goals that fit the job you have
CBT
With CBT, we question all-or-nothing standards about being fully available in both roles. We look at what a reasonable workday could mean without pretending your responsibilities disappear.
DBT
DBT gives us ways to ask clearly for a boundary or a different handoff. We can practice a conversation with a partner or manager while considering what feels possible in your circumstances.
What Sessions Look Like
Therapy does not need another commute
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
We meet by video from a private room or safely parked car, never while driving. A lunch break or after bedtime may work if you can protect the whole session. I space my own appointments to keep the work-life balance I talk about.
You can care about your job and your family without being available for every demand.
What Can Shift
- A clearer end to part of the workday.
- A shared plan for the first hour at home.
- More room to rest without defending why you need it.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
For Moms
The first hour home
Before the door opens
You finish a call and immediately start thinking about dinner. We can look at whether a small pause or an agreed handoff is possible before the next set of requests.
After bedtime
An unfinished work task may still need attention. We discuss what is necessary tonight and what the fear of disappointing someone is adding.
Fees in Brief
$175
Individual therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Individual work costs $175 per session. Couples sessions are $195 when you want to discuss shared expectations together. A free consultation gives us time to ask about scheduling and fit.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need to reduce my work hours?
Can we discuss evening resentment?
How long is the consultation?
Both roles are full. Your needs still count.
We can start with the point in the day where the pressure feels strongest.