For Moms
The Mental Load
You may be sitting down while the invisible list is still running.
Who This Is For
For the person who remembers what comes next
You remember the school forms, the birthday gift, the next appointment and what groceries will run out tomorrow. Even when someone helps, you may still be the person noticing, assigning and checking.
I hear from moms who feel tired before they can name what they did. We can make that work visible and talk about how it is shared, without turning therapy into another list for you to manage.
What We Work On
Naming the work behind the task
Remembering
Knowing when a form is due is part of the task. We can separate doing an errand from owning the whole responsibility.
Uneven ownership
A partner may wait for instructions while you keep track of everything. We discuss that pattern rather than assuming either person knows how it feels.
Dropping a ball
Some commitments can be delayed or declined. I help you consider what matters, what is optional and what needs a reliable handoff.
How I Work
Making room for a different division
CBT
CBT helps us examine thoughts such as believing everything will fall apart if you stop checking. We look at the real risks and choose a small change, not a sudden withdrawal from every task.
DBT
With DBT, we practice asking for shared ownership in clear words. A request can include who notices, plans and follows through, rather than leaving you responsible for reminders.
What Sessions Look Like
A conversation beyond the chore chart
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
In individual sessions, we can name your limits and rehearse a request. Couples sessions can help both people discuss how to divide planning and follow-through. I ask whose expectations are shaping the work, including your own.
You might want help that does not require you to supervise the help.
What Can Shift
- A task handed over with its planning and reminders.
- More say in which family commitments stay on the calendar.
- Less guilt about an optional job left undone.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
For Moms
Small things to try this week
Choose one whole task
Pick something another adult can fully own, such as planning and buying groceries. Discuss the handoff instead of quietly testing whether they notice.
Name one optional demand
A homemade gift or extra activity may not fit this week. I want to hear what makes saying no hard, not grade the choice.
Notice the checking
Write down when you are tracking someone else’s task. That can give us a concrete place to begin the conversation.
Fees in Brief
$175
Individual therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Individual therapy is $175 per session. Couples therapy is $195. We can discuss which format suits the shared load during a free 20 to 30 minute consultation.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Do we both need to attend?
Will you tell us the right split?
Can I start if my partner is not interested?
Let’s put the invisible work into words.
Tell me which tasks keep following you, even after you sit down.