For Moms
Caring for Kids and Aging Parents
The school pickup and your parent’s appointment both need you. So do your own needs.
Who This Is For
When care runs in two directions
You may be arranging a parent’s medical visit while keeping track of school pickup and dinner. The calls, rides and decisions can fill the spaces other people see as free time.
My background includes medical social work and family work, and I hold an active New York State license as a Licensed Nursing Home Administrator (LNHA). That work has given me a lot of experience with older adults and with the sandwich generation: moms in middle age caring for their aging parents and their own children at the same time. I understand that a care task can carry worry, family history and guilt alongside the practical details. I ask what falls to you, without assuming everyone has the same kind of support.
What We Work On
The demands between generations
Appointments and handoffs
A changed medical appointment can affect work and a child’s ride. We can make room for the stress of being the person who rearranges everything.
Caregiver guilt
You may feel you have not done enough in either direction. We examine that standard and the limits of what one person can provide.
Family expectations
Siblings or relatives may see the responsibilities differently. We can discuss what you want to ask for and what has made that conversation hard.
How I Work
Care that does not erase your limits
CBT
CBT helps us examine thoughts that being a good daughter or mom means always being available. We look at the actual needs and the expectations that add guilt.
DBT
With DBT, we practice a specific request or boundary with relatives. We can rehearse what to say when plans change, while leaving room for their response and your own limits.
What Sessions Look Like
Space for the part you cannot fit into a schedule
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
In video sessions, we can talk about the emotional weight of care, not just how to organize it. I do not make medical decisions for your parent. Medical questions belong with their care team; our work focuses on your feelings and choices.
You can care about both generations without being the answer to every need.
What Can Shift
- A clearer distinction between what is yours and what can be shared.
- Less pressure to make every person comfortable with your limits.
- More room to discuss sadness, resentment and worry.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
For Moms
Between the appointment and pickup
The visible task
You drove to the appointment and made it back in time. The day may look managed from the outside, while you are still thinking about what you heard.
The invisible part
We can talk about fear for your parent, the next decision or a sibling conversation you are avoiding. Finishing the drive does not finish the feelings.
If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988, or call 911.
Fees in Brief
$175
Individual therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Individual sessions are $175. Family work is $195 if two or more family members want to address communication together. A free 20 to 30 minute consultation lets us discuss what fits.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What is the sandwich generation?
Can I come even if my parent is not in therapy?
Will you advise on my parent’s medical care?
Can we discuss conflict with siblings?
The person arranging the care needs support, too.
Tell me what you are holding between your children’s needs and your parent’s needs.