For Moms
Going Back to Work After a Baby
You can miss your baby and welcome part of the workday at the same time.
Who This Is For
When returning is more than a calendar date
The first handoff may bring tears, relief or both. You might like having adult conversation again and still spend the day wondering how the baby is doing. Those feelings do not need to cancel each other out.
I work with new parents whose return involves childcare plans, feeding logistics and a changed sense of who they are at work. As a mother of four, I know the plan on paper is only part of the transition.
What We Work On
The details around the return
Childcare handoffs
Getting out the door can involve bags, instructions and worry. We can discuss what reassurance helps and what keeps the checking going.
Pumping and feeding
Time, privacy and storing supplies may affect your day. I can support the feelings and workplace conversations, not give feeding or medical advice.
Your work identity
You may feel familiar at your job and changed as a person. We make room for what you want to keep and what no longer fits.
How I Work
Less judgment about mixed feelings
CBT
CBT helps us examine thoughts that enjoying work makes you less caring, or missing the baby makes you less capable. We consider a fuller view of both roles.
DBT
With DBT, we practice requests around time, privacy and the evening handoff. We can rehearse the words before you speak with a partner or someone at work.
What Sessions Look Like
Your return, one real day at a time
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
In video sessions, you can bring the last handoff or an evening that felt rushed. We look at the practical load and your feelings together. A private lunch break may work, but you need enough uninterrupted time for the full conversation.
Guilt and relief can both be part of going back.
What Can Shift
- More honest words for what the handoff feels like.
- A clearer plan for sharing the evening load.
- Permission to notice what you enjoy about work.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
For Moms
The night before the first handoff
The practical part
The bag is packed, then checked again. We can look at which details need a plan and which questions are asking for certainty no plan can give.
The personal part
You may wonder whether you will feel like yourself at work. I ask what that means to you, instead of assuming you want everything to return to how it was.
If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988, or call 911.
Fees in Brief
$175
Individual therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Individual therapy is $175 per session. Couples work is $195 when you want to discuss the return together. A free 20 to 30 minute consultation gives us time to ask about your schedule.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
See all rates and the cancellation policyQuestions
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I start before going back?
Will you tell me which childcare to choose?
What about feeding questions?
There is room for both the missing and the relief.
Tell me which part of the return feels hardest to explain.