Parenting and Family
Co-Parenting After Separation
Two homes can mean many handoffs, and conversations you would rather not have.
Who This Is For
When the relationship has changed but parenting continues
A simple message about pickup can turn into an old argument. You may feel tense before a handoff, then worry about what your child noticed.
I work with parents on communication and family stress after separation. We can focus on your responses and the child’s needs without making your child the messenger. I do not provide custody recommendations or legal advice.
What We Work On
What we can talk through
- 01
Two routines
Different homes may have different habits. We discuss what needs coordination and what differences you may not be able to control.
- 02
Handoffs
Transitions can carry feelings for adults and children. We can plan brief, practical communication that does not reopen every disagreement.
- 03
Keeping kids out of the middle
A child should not have to carry adult complaints. We can practice how to answer a question without sharing more than they need.
How I Work
Skills for the moment, and the pattern
CBT
CBT helps us examine the meaning you attach to a short message or changed plan. We look at what is known before responding to assumptions about the other parent’s intent.
DBT
With DBT, we practice direct requests and limits. A message can stay about the time, place and information needed rather than becoming a record of the whole relationship.
What Sessions Look Like
A conversation grounded in your week
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
Individual video sessions can focus on your side of the pattern. Family sessions may help when participants can speak safely and willingly. If there is intimidation or abuse, shared sessions may not be appropriate; safety comes before joint communication work.
You may want less tension around the handoff, even when agreement is limited.
What Can Shift
- Shorter messages that stick to the current task.
- A clearer boundary about adult conversations around children.
- Time to settle your own feelings after a transition.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
Parenting and Family
Words for a practical handoff
The request
“Please confirm the pickup time.” We can practice a brief message that sounds like you and does not invite a new argument.
The boundary
“I can discuss the schedule without our child present.” A script is a starting point, not a guarantee about someone else’s response.
Fees in Brief
$175
Individual therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Individual work is $175. Family sessions for 2 or more members are $195. A free consultation can help us discuss which format is appropriate.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
See all rates and the cancellation policyQuestions
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I attend alone?
Do we have to agree on everything?
Can therapy change a custody arrangement?
Start with the handoff that stays on your mind.
We can discuss support for you and whether any shared work would be suitable.