Parenting and Family
Family Conflict
The argument may begin with a small thing and return to the same old hurt.
Who This Is For
When everyone knows how the fight will go
A question about a holiday plan turns into the same argument about who does enough. Siblings may remember the past differently, while everyone wants their own version heard.
My background includes family work and more than 20 years in social work. I offer space to discuss the pattern, not decide which person is the whole problem. Family therapy includes 2 or more members willing to take part.
What We Work On
What we can talk through
The repeat argument
We slow down what happens before voices rise. The first comment, the response and the old meaning attached to it can all matter.
Siblings and relatives
Uneven responsibilities and different memories may create tension. We can discuss the current request without requiring everyone to agree about every past event.
Holidays and boundaries
Visits, hosting and traditions can carry expectations nobody says aloud. We help put those expectations into words so the conversation has a clearer subject.
How I Work
Skills for the moment, and the pattern
CBT
With CBT, we look at assumptions such as no one ever listens to you. We examine specific moments and how that expectation shapes the next response, without dismissing past hurt.
DBT
DBT skills help us practice turn-taking, direct requests and a pause when the discussion gets too heated. We can work on hearing a concern without treating it as a demand to agree.
What Sessions Look Like
A conversation grounded in your week
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
In virtual family sessions, we focus on conflict resolution, communication and coping skills. At times, family work includes some individual work with different members alongside full family sessions. We discuss participation, privacy and safety before deciding how to meet.
A useful conversation may begin with one request that everyone can understand.
What Can Shift
- More direct words for the current concern.
- Less reliance on another family member to carry a message.
- An agreed pause before the discussion becomes another repeat fight.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
Parenting and Family
The holiday plan underneath the argument
The practical question
Who is hosting, traveling or helping? We can separate those decisions from assumptions about who cares most.
The old feeling
Being left out or taken for granted may be the part that hurts. We can name that without expecting a single session to settle the family’s history.
Fees in Brief
$195
Family therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Family sessions for 2 or more members cost $195 and last 45 to 50 minutes. The free consultation helps us discuss who wants to attend.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Do all relatives have to join?
Will you take sides?
What if shared sessions feel unsafe?
We can start with the fight that keeps coming back.
A consultation gives us time to discuss whether family work is appropriate.