Parenting and Family
Couples After a Baby
You may be doing the care tasks side by side and still feel far apart.
Who This Is For
When being a team starts to feel like being roommates
One person is feeding the baby while the other is trying to get dinner ready. You both feel tired, but each may think the other has missed how much they are doing.
I am a mother of four, and I work with couples on conflict, goals and boundaries. We can talk about this changed season without assuming you should feel close on demand or agree about every care task.
What We Work On
What we can talk through
- 01
Sleep and care
Broken sleep can affect patience and the handoff between you. We discuss who notices, plans and takes over, including the work that is easy to miss.
- 02
Sex and touch
Desire and comfort may change. We can talk respectfully about consent, expectations and affection without pressure; pain or medical concerns need a medical professional.
- 03
Roommate feelings
Conversations may be mostly instructions. We can ask what kind of connection each person misses instead of assuming both want the same thing.
How I Work
Skills for the moment, and the pattern
CBT
CBT helps us examine interpretations such as a missed task proves your partner does not care. We look at the task and the pattern while making room for real unequal responsibilities.
DBT
DBT supports clear requests and a calmer response to criticism. We can practice naming what you need without turning the discussion into a comparison of who is more exhausted.
What Sessions Look Like
A conversation grounded in your week
- Where
- Virtual, from anywhere in New York State
- Length
- 45 to 50 minutes
- When
- Day, evening and weekend times
Couples sessions happen privately by video. Arrange care for the baby when possible so both people can focus. I ask about safety and whether shared work is appropriate. Couples therapy is not a substitute for medical care or urgent mental health support.
Closeness can be a conversation about what feels welcome now, not another demand.
What Can Shift
- A clearer division of planning and care tasks.
- Words for affection that respect both people’s comfort.
- More attention to the person behind the next instruction.
These are hopes we work toward together, not guarantees.
Parenting and Family
The handoff after a broken night
Name the next task
Rather than hoping your partner notices, discuss who owns the next feed or chore. We can also address why you have been left to assign it.
Name the need beneath it
You might want rest, recognition or a little time together. Those are different requests, and we can give each room without expecting an instant solution.
If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988, or call 911.
Fees in Brief
$195
Couples therapy, 45 to 50 minutes
Couples sessions cost $195 for 45 to 50 minutes. A free 20 to 30 minute consultation gives us time to discuss fit and a private session time.
All sessions are private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement. I am in network with Northwell Direct.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is it too soon after the baby?
Do we need to agree on the problem?
What about postpartum symptoms?
Talk about the distance before another handoff.
We can discuss the support your relationship needs during this season.